Daddy Issues! What Are They and Do I Have Them? HELP!!!

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The Urban Dictionary show several definitions for Daddy Issues For Women…
First I will give you those definitions and then I’m sure you’re going to want to know… (WELL WHAT ABOUT THE MEN WITH DADDY ISSUES) because I said the same thing.

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Top Definition is…
Daddy issues
1.  Whenever a female has a jacked up relationship with her father, or absence of a father figure during her childhood, it tends to spill into any adult relationship they embark on, usually to the chagrin of any poor male in their life.

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2.  A girl wanting to be submissive and adored by an older guy, who will put her above all others. The sex is kinky, and the dominance irresistible to the male. A girl wanting to be naughty but sweet, just for her daddy

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3.  When a female has a bad relationship with her father or a father that walked out on her, causing her to seek male attention

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4.  What an innocent girl has to deal with when she was molested by her father as a young child and sexually developed before her time and then misunderstood the rest of her life

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5.  Having an older man in your life that you see as the dad you never had that you have secretly always wanted to have sex with.

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6.  Present in 90% of girls in America, daddy issues occur when said female has a history of being beaten, molested, neglected, or simply her dreams of ever being a princess were crushed by her daddy.

This results in much insecurity such that will cause her to either be completely psycho or a sloot or both.

Eight ways to identify daddy issues:
1: She dresses the way sluttier than her friends
2: She is an attention whore
3: She sleeps with anyone who owns a bed
4: She is hostile and loud
5: She has multiple tattoos
6: She has more guy than girlfriends
7: She uses profanity to construct 90% of everyday conversation
8: She talks about her daddy issues

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Okay, so I know that that is a lot to take in and please don’t kill the messenger; I’m just writing what they said. But how do you feel about all those points? Do you think that some or valid or all could possibly be valid. Please leave your comment.

Personally I think some of it is a bit extreme and would like to meet the person who concocted these definitions; however, in some definitions I can relate and/or I can see the relevance, but anyway that’s my personal opinion.
Based on an article I read; it basically had this to say…

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Fathers or strong and consistent male presence in a girl’s life do have a significant effect on self-esteem. This is largely undisputed by experts in psychology. Feeling attractive and loved by “daddy” (or other strong male figure) can help a girl have more confidence and strength. This is not necessarily penis envy, but it does appear as though girls and women can prosper better in their lives if they had positive male input from a father figure. Without that, girls may express daddy issues in seeking out father figures, or placing even very good men with whom they are in relationship, in positions that they really can’t adequately fill.
Daddy issues can thus be perceived as attempting to work out problems with the father/daughter relationship, either its complete absence, abuse of the relationship, or unreliability. A woman who goes through life without these issues is often one who had a secure and loving father figure in her life. A person still working on this may try to make today’s relationships “serve” a need that was not adequately fulfilled in childhood and adolescent years. This can lead to poor relationships with men in the present and the future, until the women is able to reconcile a past father/daughter relationship, often through therapy, that wasn’t altogether satisfactory.

The Huffington Post did also have done an article on Daddy Issues and here’s some of what they had to say about the male side of the Daddy Issues spectrum.
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Deep down, every man wants to live the fairy-tale too…just like women. Yet we berate the opposite sex for being stereotypically idealistic…living in a dream world. However, all men desire the beautiful wife, home, lifestyle and memories. We want children who harness our emotional thermometer, making them easy to love by generating uncontrollable fits of laughter to overwhelming feelings of being proud; all with an architect’s precision which makes us feel alive.
But most men learn not to chase this dream. Daddy issues can prevent this, creating enough cracks in a male’s emotional foundation, no matter how impressive his armour is! If the dream comes to us then ‘great’! We’ll handle it, just like a man’s supposed to do – efficiently. However, there’s no way we’re planning for this TV-show existence.
Each man can have his own daddy issues!
Perhaps your dad didn’t come and watch you play at the football game. Was your place in the team based on his stellar reputation of how good he used to be? Maybe you were just doing it to make him proud. Nevertheless, we all know there’s no point being a chip off the old block, if the block isn’t there to see it.
All men are told to ‘be a man’; which is hard enough if you don’t know how. However, it’s even more so for those boys who are told to ‘be like your old man’; knowing full well, that his 6 foot 2 inch muscular frame is something that your 5 foot 7 inch stick-thin physique is unlikely to ever emulate. Perhaps your dad was the most intelligent, forward-thinking and achievement compiling male of his professional environment; and knowing this placed a psychological pressure on you, rather than the physical one to achieve something of comparative brilliance.
Or maybe your dad was just cr*p. Did he leave your mum for another woman? Damage her so badly with the open nature of his extenuating sexual exploits or controlling dominance that neither you nor her ever recovered? Most Dads just don’t know how to be a Dad.
There is no parenting manual – and he was likely to have had daddy issues of his own!
This doesn’t mean that these Dads didn’t give it their best. However, sometimes they just don’t know how to love; so he justifies his love with materialistic gifts or hollow promises.
Maybe he struggled to express any emotion effectively besides anger and laughter; and you didn’t want to be on the receiving end of either of them. His anger may destroy your face whilst his laughter, (directed at you, not with you), might contribute to the destruction of your self-esteem.
And as we know, some guy’s had the pleasure of their Dad being an amalgamation of all these characteristics or worse, maybe yours just didn’t exist… an unknown spectra casting the biggest shadow over any of your personal qualities or achievements. Rearing its head by the most innocuous of questions such as ‘who’s your dad?’ Some men grow up with a mother, who blames you for your absent father’s shortcomings and any resemblance in you, magnifies your daddy issues exponentially.
And these are just the tip of the iceberg but before you know it, you’re 21+, a man yourself so to speak. So what do men do? We play the stereotype…. Hard!
Sleeping with lots of women; getting into physical fights, refusing to back down, (even if it’s stupid); pursuing the financial/materialistic kudos of our age/social group. Hiding our emotions and of course never shedding a tear – unless it’s of significant purpose, like the passing of our mother of course. Even then, some men contemplate using sunglasses.
We can’t be seen to be acting like a b*tch or wuss, we have to take it like a man. We have to ‘man-up’. Some women even scream this in your direction, (which is even worse, because that means she IS looking at you like a b*tch or wuss), which can result in some silly retaliatory behavior. You can see why some men would act in such a way. However, is it possible for him to have learned to deal with the daddy issues that he might be unaware of?
Regardless of the answer, the cycle has to be broken. Remember, society is powerful enough to mould and shape the majority of its individuals beyond belief. This is the world that men are navigating; a world of perpetuating daddy issues. Whilst consciously, (or unconsciously), dealing with these internal demons, he has to find a way to come out on top. He thinks he has to beat all these other men he is competing with… and then he meets a pretty girl….
So when you look at both sides, the outcome is still pretty much the same. “Jacked Up!”
43% of US children live without their father, 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. 71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father.
85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.

God has place on the heart of Pastor Wayne Luster and Evangelist Michelle Luster along with a panel of advisors to appeal to you that have influence in your families, churches and any organization that you are apart. Pastor Wayne Luster has observed the divesting effects of missing fathers and husbands in the home and would like to discuss these issues with you and try to assist you by giving you key advice on how we as a community can help each other work through and overcome these issues and offer an alternative way of thinking to create healthier, happier, and more fulfilling relationships.
Pastor Wayne Luster will be hosting a Daddy Issue conference on Wednesday – Friday, June 17-19, 2015, starting promptly at 7pm at 14 Village Square Drive, Hazelwood, Mo. 63042
He would like for you to bring your entire family out for this much needed conference.
Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems
Was your father absent in your life?
Was he physically present but emotionally unavailable?
Was your father abusive toward you (physically, emotionally or sexually)?

So when you look at both sides, the outcome is still pretty much the same. “Jacked Up!”

43% of US children live without their father, 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. 80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. 71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. 71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. 75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. 70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father. 85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home.

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But Don’t Panic! There’s Hope!

God has place on the heart of Pastor Wayne Luster and Evangelist Michelle Luster along with a panel of advisors to appeal to you that have influence in your families, churches and any organization that you are apart. Pastor Wayne Luster has observed the divesting effects of missing fathers and husbands in the home and would like to discuss these issues with you and try to assist you by giving you key advice on how we as a community can help each other work through and overcome these issues and offer an alternative way of thinking to create healthier, happier, and more fulfilling relationships.

Pastor Wayne Luster will be hosting a Daddy Issues Conference on Wednesday – Friday, June 17-19, 2015, starting promptly at 7pm at 14 Village Square Drive, Hazelwood, Mo. 63042

He would like for you to bring your entire family out for this much needed conference.

Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems

Was your father absent in your life?

Was he physically present but emotionally unavailable?

Was your father abusive toward you (physically, emotionally or sexually)?

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If you said yes to any of the above, you’re certainly not alone. This identifies characteristics of “daddy issues” Can you see yourself in any of the following descriptions?

1. You’re only attracted to older men.
They’re often financially stable, and they appear confident and know exactly what to do. When you have daddy issues, your subconscious may crave a father figure to protect and adore you. You may yearn for an older man to provide the affection you missed in childhood. The problem is that, as with a father/daughter relationship, this pairing may bring an imbalance of power.

2. You are clingy, jealous, and overprotective.
You constantly worry that your partner might leave you. You get jealous and find yourself checking his cell phone, just to make sure he’s not cheating. If this describes you, you may be suffering with attachment issues, stemming from the relationship (or lack thereof) with your father. This can cause co-dependent behavior and if not dealt with, may eventually suffocate your romantic relationships, leaving you a product of your own fears — abandonment!

3. You need constant reassurance of love and affection.
You continually compare yourself to his past girlfriends and everyone else on the planet. If you have daddy issues, you may feel insecure with your partner and constantly need assurance that he loves you. This can get exhausting, and eventually the neediness may push him away, which will confirm your greatest fear — you are unlovable and unwanted.

4. You give the impression that you only care about sex.
You crave sex, lots of it. You feel loved when having sex with a man. You sometimes engage in risky behaviors to satisfy your needs. Your self-esteem tends to be based on whether or not a man wants you sexually. Being attractive to men through sex tends to trick the subconscious into believing you are loved and adored. Unfortunately, this is a false sense of security and can be very damaging. Sex on its own is not love. By behaving this way, you’re missing out on true intimacy based on mutual respect and companionship.

5. You’re terrified of being alone.
You would rather be in a dysfunctional relationship than be single. You bounce from relationship to relationship, and experience all the issues that go with rebound dating and rushing into relationships without giving them time to see if there’s compatibility. If you have daddy issues, the fear of being alone may reduce your ability to develop your own unique identity and move forward into a healthy fulfilling relationship with a healthy self-esteem.

If you have identified with any of these 5 examples then you need to be at this conference.
Conference: Getting Over Daddy Issues
Place: 14 Village Square Drive, Hazelwood Mo. 63042
Date: Wednesday-Friday, June, 17-19-2015
Time: 7:00pm Sharp
Contact Tammy Hinkle 618-606-6121 or Roz Brown 314-642-4530 for more information!

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