What Is Love?????????? Who Really Knows…………….God!!!!!!!!!!!

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What Is Love??????????

First and foremost “Love is God” and although I know that we are not “God” that doesn’t mean that we cannot love the right way……..

We just have to know what, how where and when; I know that you are probably saying okay; I understand the WHAT & HOW; but what is she talking about WHERE and WHEN…….


Well, here’s your answer……………..

WHAT love is!

HOW to love!

WHERE does love fit in your life!

WHEN you are supposed to give the love that you may not receive back.


WHAT love is depends on WHERE you are in relation to it. If you are secure in love; it can make you feel as if you are lost without it. It can be the very reason why you feel you exist.

On the other hand, if deprived of it; it can feel like an obsession; all consuming, a physical pain that will drive you to ride an emotional rollercoaster with CRAZY, only to get off depressed and hating the world around you.

That said; it is not just about romantic love, but it’s about the love you have for your child as a parent, for your family, for your friends, for things and even for people you don’t know.

WHAT separates you from true love; are the other emotions that get in the way. These emotions are called emotional distractions that talk to you in little voices, inside your head telling your feelings that you are not getting the love you deserve or that your love is not being reciprocated; and it is usually during this time when love is either everything or either nothing.


Statistics say that “LOVE” is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection to pleasure. Love can be referred to as an emotion of a strong attraction and/or personal attachment.

But see………. Godly love is unconditional…………..

Without all the feelings, states, attitudes, attractions, attachments and emotions.

God is Love and…….Godly love is a mind that wishes others to be happy and free from suffering. Godly love is having joy down on the inside, to the point that is beams on the outside, regardless to your attraction, emotions or circumstances.


People often confuse love as a reciprocal relationship where we get something from someone else, and give back in return.

For example, we may care for our partner as long as we feel that he or she makes us happy. When we no longer feel our partner is able to give us happiness, we find fault in him or her and lose our caring mind and want out.

When in reality; know-one can make you happy. This is something that you have to have living inside you from the jump; and that requires having joy down on the inside and this joy can only come from God.

The mindset that wishes for happiness from others in called……………

desirous attachment

“is a deluded mental factor that observes its contaminated object, regards it as a cause of happiness, and wishes for it.”

Desirous attachment causes us a lot of problems in our romantic, personal, and professional relationships. This mindset can even cause depression, oppression and discontentment in the person who feels as though they are not receiving love. In this case love becomes a condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent.


We talk about love, as being blind or unconditional; which is true; but not in the sense that we have no control over it.

The fact of the matter is that we do have control over it; it’s called (Free Will)

However, love is who we should be regardless of whatever the situation is. But since we are not God and we do live in the flesh; for the most part, we base love on how we are treated, how we are connected, or what we are passionate about.

But just for the record; if it’s not Godly, it’s nothing or maybe it’s just lust!

“Meaning, if you can’t love the “HELL” out of me, after you said you loved me; before I didn’t do what you wanted me to do or before I made you upset; then you didn’t really love me at all.


While lust is a temporary passionate sexual desire involving the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen; in true love, or attachment and bonding, the brain can release a whole set of chemicals: pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin.

However; from my perspective, the word love can be used as a survival tool – a mechanism we have evolved to promote long-term relationships; to promote feelings of safety and security.

How many times in your life have you said the word “Love” or told someone you loved them because you felt a bond or connection that you wanted to keep; weather you did it consciously or unconsciously? Be it your boyfriend, your husband, your kids, your mother, your friends or get a load of this…………… even your car or job!!!!

“I LOVE this Car”

“I just LOVE my job”

“I LOVE my natural hair”

“I LOVE you”


Most of the time when you say you love something or someone; you ultimately mean that you never what to part from it. However, over time those feeling can change; if it was used as a survival tool at that particular time!

To be honest we have all done it; and when you are dealing with the flesh, the answer to love remains elusive, in part because love is not just for one thing. You have the love for parents, friends, children, things, neighbor, and so on, and they all require different qualities of love.

Each has its variants – blind, one-sided, tragic, steadfast, fickle, reciprocated and misguided. At its best, however; all love is a kind of passionate commitment that we nurture and develop, even if it arrives in our lives today and is gone tomorrow. Sad to say, but it’s true…………..

The one true thing that we can say for sure that we love unconditional is our children and sometimes with some people that a challenge.

But the catch 22 is that at some point or another everybody wants to feel some type of love; even if it’s not the right kind.

That’s why we have to understand that love is more than just and emotional feeling. Without the commitment, it is mere infatuation. Without the passion, it is mere dedication. Without nurturing, it will die.


So WHAT is love, WHEN do you give it, WHERE do you apply it in your life and HOW do you keep it alive?

Well, love is more easily experienced than defined, that’s for sure, at least to me.

“You can say you love me all day; but I need you to show me!

Before, I go on; Goddesses, I’m going to say it for you myself!


And you are absolutely right, because this right here is a teaching and preaching moment! So, here I go……..

God said, that if he lives in us that we should love all things and our neighbors as ourselves for his sake; so it would be a contradiction for me to ask ……..

So WHAT is love, WHEN do you give it, WHERE do you apply it in your life and HOW do you keep it alive?

You should know WHAT love is from knowing God,

You should know WHERE love is, because he said that it should be living in you and that you should show it to everyone

You should know WHEN to show love, because it is not an option; God said that it should be showed always.

You should know HOW to keep love alive because………..now this is the struggle, right here…….

The only way you can keep it alive is by continuously seeking him 1st. Who? “GOD” that’s who!

Done preaching now………………….


Now my real question to you is; did you get all of that?

I know that you’re probably saying “Yeah, I know it sounds good until we encounter it in flesh, and in the flesh life of another!”

And that a good sarcastic come back!

(Your Husband, Your Boyfriend, Your Kids, Your Family, Your Friends, That Lady on the corner asking for $!)

But, here’s another answer for you…………………

– in acts of kindness, generosity, honesty, patience, meekness, self-control and self-sacrifice.


Love’s the one thing that can never hurt anyone, although it may cost dearly. The best thing about love is that it is absolutely free and attaches us with bonds stronger than marriage; because you can say I do and be married and not have Godly love in it; but if you place Godly love into that marriage then it will never fail.

See love is and extraordinary thing, because it cannot be bought or sold; there is nothing it cannot face; love is life’s greatest blessing and if you know God; then you know that love resides down in you and it’s just waiting for you to show it off.

So in conclusion!

For all you Married Love Birds out there………….

You know I have to talk to the married people first because this is a part of ministry!

Love the one you are with, unconditionally and whole heartedly and if you feel (emotion) that you’ve been dealt a bad hand; don’t try to throw it in to fortieth the game or to get a new one. You decided to play this game of marriage, so now you’re in it.


There is no throwing in the hand; you better ask your partner (GOD) to help you win; I’m sure he has more than enough help. Regardless of what it looks like and what hand you were dealt; God can fix it and your marriage will have the Victory!

Check out this video by Himay10nence that inspired me to write this article today.  Shout out to my CUZ…….. Himay10nence y’all for always keeping us on our toes!!!!!  In this case……….up on our LOVE game!!!!

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